”Death is outside the power relationship. Death is beyond the reach of power, and power has a grip on it only in general, overall, or statistical terms. Power has no control over death, but it can control mortality. And to that extent, it is only natural that death should now be privatized, and should become the most private thing of all. In the right of sovereignty, death was the moment of the most obvious and most spectacular manifestation of the absolute power of the sovereign; death now becomes, in contrast, the moment when the individual escapes all power, falls back on himself and retreats, so to speak, into his own privacy. Power no longer recognizes death. Power literally ignores death.
Deep down, no one really believes they have a right to live. But this death sentence generally stays cosily tucked away, hidden beneath the difficulty of living. If that difficulty is removed from time to time, death is suddenly there, unintelligibly.
Mourners often imagine the loved one materialzing on high, from back of beyond, looking down as a saintly guardian. Sometimes one even seems to become the lost person, playing both roles Grieving birds do that too. Canada Geese mate for life, with the male singing one part of their song, the female the other. After a mate dies, the survivor sings both parts to keep the whole song alive. If humans did that, we would call it romantic.
Diane Ackerman (An Alchemy of Mind)
Death left its old tragic heaven and became the lyrical core of man: his invisible truth, his visible secret.